Tips For Praising This Child That Parents Need To Pay Attention To

Unlike in the past families who believed in stick education, it is difficult for parents and teachers to discipline their children. They prefer to start from the perspective of encouragement so that children can discover their own advantages and grow up. 

However, on the one hand, this method can bring a foundation for the comprehensive development of the child, but the parents who blindly encourage the child will also make the child become conceited.

When I was educating my great treasure, in the face of my children's mistakes, sometimes I would use praise to help them grow up, so as not to make them feel too guilty. But over time, I found that the child gradually felt that he was omnipotent.

This kind of praise for the child makes the child proud. Later, I reflected on it. In fact, there was a problem with my way of complimenting. This kind of blind compliment has no positive effect on the growth of the child.

What Kind Of Harm Will Parents Blindly Praise Their Children?

Hazard 1. Let The Child Lose Himself

Sometimes parents praise their children, but they don't see any outstanding performance in their children, or where they have made progress, and just blindly say that they have done a good job.

This ability to deal with children 's fuzzy children will make children lose themselves seriously, making them unable to distinguish between right and wrong, and even if they do something wrong, they will not feel guilty. Therefore, parents must be specific in praising their children.

Do not blindly praise the child in an all-around way, but let the child lose himself. Be sure to see where children have made progress and what characteristics they have. Complimenting children based on their strengths also makes them think that parents have seen their growth.

Hazard 2. Children Become Flattering

When children learn this way of compliment from their parents, they will also use this way to change their style when facing other people. A child's life revolves around the parent, and if the parent is such a character, the child will also use this complement to deal with other people.

Then in terms of children's social interaction, other friends may feel that their children will flatter others for their own interests, and it is difficult to make true friends.

When a child becomes a sophisticated person, it is difficult for them to obtain innocence at this time, and the child may become very social without the parents knowing it, which is also a phenomenon that parents do not want to see.

There Are These Tips For Praising Children, Parents Need To Pay Attention

Method 1. Praise The Perseverance Of The Child

Sometimes when praising children, parents can not only praise their achievements but also praise their efforts behind their achievements. Therefore, children will think that they may not get a good grade on the test, and they are not working hard enough, and they will not think about whether they are stupid.

In this way, the parents point out the way to praise the child, and it will also make the child feel that as long as he works hard, he will be praised by the parents. This way of parents will also point out the way for children in learning, and children will work harder with less effort after seeing their parents' praise.

Method 2. Constantly Check The Progress Of The Child

As the old saying goes: humility makes progress. Therefore, when children get a good grade on the test, parents should not praise them too exaggeratedly, but instead, make their children more and more proud.

But this does not mean that parents do not value their children's progress and cannot treat them with indifference. For example, parents can give their children some rewards, praise them in a timely manner, and tell them that it is right to do so.

Method 3: Pay Attention To Details

Parents can also discover the advantages of their children through some details so that they can also see what kind of character the child is. For example, children like cleanliness, their rooms are neatly tidy, and they look very beautiful. At this time, parents can praise them like this: You are really a good child who loves cleanliness.

When children face praise from family members, they will also accept it calmly. If the parents don't see this again and just praise him blindly, you are a good child who loves cleanliness, and the child will be confused and not understand what the parents are saying. Therefore, parents must observe the character of their children through some details and help them grow.

Method 4: Praise Your Child For Their Hard Work And Patience

Sometimes when children face the praise of their parents, they will also take the initiative to do something that the parents are happy about on a whim. However, things are usually done in three minutes. When parents stop praising their children, they will not be able to raise their spirits. With such a character, it is difficult for children to accomplish great things.

Therefore, when parents praise their children, they must see the patience and hard work of their children in doing things. This is an advantage worthy of praise from parents, and it can also encourage children to work harder in this area.

Conclusion 

In fact, in the face of the child's growth, parents will feel that the child's growth is too naive, and can't wait to do everything for the child so that they can avoid some wrong paths. But this method is obviously wrong. Even if there are not so many things that parents need to praise for the growth of children, parents can mix some education in this praise. You need to put in enough effort to get praise.

If you want your child's life to be full of different and challenging things, parents need to constantly encourage them and let them grow in trials. Therefore, parents must not give frequent verbal praise when praising their children and praise their children decisively without seeing their success in a certain area. This is a manifestation of irresponsibility.

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