Many Children Ask For Hugs As They Walk, Why Do Some Parents Refuse?

When children learn to walk by themselves, parents will always encounter such a problem when they take their children out. Many children are unwilling to walk by themselves when they go out, and many children like to walk when they are walking. Ask for a hug, if not, the child may cry, so the parents are forced to carry the child and continue to walk.

And this is undoubtedly hard work for parents. After all, the child has grown up, and the weight cannot be compared with that of the baby, but many parents have no choice but to accept it because they can't bear it. But some parents don't do this, but let their children continue to walk. Why do they reject their children? When the baby is about to be hugged, should we hug it?

First of all, many parents who will subconsciously agree to hold their children often have such an idea: just hold them, anyway, when the children grow up, they can’t hold them if they want to. Now that the children are small, why not satisfy the children. But this kind of thinking is not correct. Children are unwilling to hug their parents when they grow up. This is the result of family education, not that children who grow up are unwilling to hug.

When faced with some unreasonable needs of children, parents can't use the idea of ​​"there will be nothing in the future..." to deceive their own education problems. If the parent-child relationship is handled well, even adult children and parents can maintain a relationship. very close relationship. Therefore, when we face a child's request for a hug, parents must make an accurate judgment on the child's current request.

Usually, there are several reasons why children don't want to go when they are walking:

1. Limited physical strength is really tired

This situation generally occurs in children who have walked for a long time. After all, children's personal physical strength is not as good as that of adults. Even if children's vitality is high, they will easily feel tired after a long time of consumption. Therefore, if young children walk for more than 40 to 50 minutes, they will feel tired. At this time, if they want to hug, parents need to satisfy them.

2. Simply coquettish

Some children are usually spoiled by their parents. Usually, children do not undertake too many things on their own. Many of them are done by parents or elders in the family. It is easy to develop the habit of children being spoiled. When I am outside, I always do a lot of coquettish behavior. This is to confirm my parents' love for me, and it is also a habitual behavioral orientation. Parents need to correct it in time.

3. The child is uncomfortable with the surrounding environment

Children's height is relatively short, so their vision is different from that of adults. Especially in shops, pedestrian streets, etc., children's vision is almost always a chaotic scene, and they can't see anything. At this time, children will want to hug because of a strong sense of discomfort. On the one hand, they can find a sense of security, and on the other hand, they can have a better vision. Parents should not reject their children.

4. I am lazy and don't want to walk

Some children want to be hugged as soon as they go out, but they don't want to walk by themselves at all, and they start pretending to be tired before they walk long. This is a kind of lazy behavior. For children, walking is quite strenuous, but when parents hold it, it is very easy, and they can fully observe other things. In this regard, parents need to encourage children to walk by themselves according to the situation.

As parents, although we cannot be stingy with our love for our children, the key is whether we should make more sacrifices to meet the needs of our children when we are physically exhausted. Parents' love for their children needs to be moderate and reasonable. When they ask for unreasonable demands from their children, they may need more courage to refuse.

So, if the parents have the spare energy and are willing to hold the child, no matter what the situation is, we can hold the child. But if the parents are also tired, and the child can walk on his own, can we let the child walk on his own instead of relying on the parent, or can we sit and rest together and move on?

Important reminder: The child should be hugged while walking. Parents can hold it without any problem, but we need to distinguish the reason behind the child, whether it is really tired or just acting like a spoiled child, whether it is the child's discomfort with the environment, or I just want to be lazy and don't want to leave. Parents can meet their children's demands when they have spare energy, but they must have the courage to refuse their children's demands.

Today's topic: If it were you, what would you do if the child left outside and wanted to hug? Welcome to leave a message for discussion.

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