What Is The Character Of The Mother What Is The Life Of The Child?

The education of children has always plagued many families.

Parents are doting, children are domineering; parents are strict, and children are rebellious or submissive...

Faced with all kinds of difficult "bear children", parents are often miserable.

In fact, as the child's first teacher, the most effective educational method for parents is not simply to discipline but to teach by words and deeds, with subtle influence.

In most families, mothers spend more time with their children and have a greater impact on their children.

A mother's words and deeds will leave a deep imprint on the child.

It can be said that the mother's personality determines the direction of the child's development.

So, what kind of mother is conducive to the child to become excellent?

1. The Pursuit Of "Decent" Mother

Comedy film master Chaplin in his "autobiography", the first person to thank is his mother.

He recalled: No matter how poor the family was, my mother would always keep the house neat and tidy, and it could even be described as spotless.

Seeing that other children's children had new clothes to wear, but the Chaplin brothers could only wear old clothes that had been sewn and amended several times, the mother took out her treasured costumes and changed them into two short coats.

She always tries her best to give her two children the utmost decency.

And this kind of "decent" life will undoubtedly make Chaplin realize from an early age that he should not just mess around just because he lives in poverty.

"We live in an inferior society, and it is easy to develop the habit of not paying attention to grammar.

But Mother is never affected by the environment, and is very attentive to our conversation, correcting our grammar at all times, making us realize that we are human beings. "

"Sneak into the night with the wind, moisten things silently", the mother's character of seeking good in everything and seeking decency, like a seed planted in the heart of young Chaplin, became the driving force for him to work hard and pursue excellence.

The Japanese novel "A Bowl of Sunshine Noodles" has touched countless people.

The strong mother in the text left a deep impression on us.

When her husband died in a car accident, the eldest son was 10 years old and the youngest son was only 6 years old, and the husband still owed money to 8 people before his death.

Fortunately, her two sons are very sensible.

In order to reduce the burden on the mother, the eldest son makes money by delivering newspapers, and the younger son cooks and cooks.

More than ten years later, the eldest son became a doctor at the Kyoto Hospital, and the younger son also got a job in a bank.

This mom is a winner in life.

What's the secret?

The younger son revealed the answer in his elementary school composition: "On the evening of December 31, the mother and son ate a bowl of Yangchun noodles, which was very delicious..."

The eldest son also said that he must never forget his mother's courage to buy a bowl of Yangchun noodles.

This bowl of Yangchun noodles is my mother's prayer for a better life in difficult years.

That hot and fragrant memory silently told the two children that although life is difficult and difficult, we must never give up the pursuit of a beautiful and decent life.

2. Visionary Mom

"The beloved son of his parents has far-reaching plans."

During the Warring States Period, Empress Dowager Zhao not only managed the country well but was also a very far-sighted mother.

Her daughter married Yan State and became Queen Yan.

Although I miss my daughter very much, I always pray at every sacrifice: "Don't let her come back!"

Because in ancient times, if a married daughter returned to her parent's home, it meant that the Yan Kingdom was destroyed, or the daughter was divorced by the King of Yan.

Empress Dowager Zhao hoped that her daughter would have children and grandchildren so that they could be kings in Yan country from generation to generation.

Considering that the youngest son, Lord Chang'an, had made little contribution to the country, and worried that after a hundred years, Lord Chang'an would not be able to secure a foothold in Zhao State, the Queen Mother Zhao readily followed the advice of the old minister and sent him to Qi State as a hostage.

Such a visionary mother, how can her children not be self-reliant?

Wheelchair writer Shi Tiesheng has achieved remarkable achievements because he has a visionary mother.

Shi Tiesheng was 20 years old, the most arrogant age in his life, when his legs were suddenly paraplegic, the blow of fate can be imagined.

At that time, he was extremely bad-tempered. He often left home like a madman and stumbled to the altar with his wheelchair.

Every time Shi Tiesheng came to life, his mother silently helped him prepare and help him get into the wheelchair.

Later, when Shi Tiesheng recalled his mother in "Me and Ditan", he said: "When I was not at home for those long periods of time, how she was restless and restless, with pain and panic and a mother's lowest prayer."

He concluded that with his mother's wisdom and perseverance, she thought about it and finally said to herself: "I can't help but let him go out anyway, the future is his own, if he really did something in that garden I have to bear this suffering.”

Visionary parents do not arrange everything for their children, because they understand that parents cannot accompany their children for a lifetime.

Some hardships must be borne by the children themselves.

With the silent encouragement of his mother, Shi Tiesheng "stands up", and he uses his pen to open a life path in literature.

3. A Tolerant mother

Jia Ling's first film, "Hello, Li Huanying", will be a hit during the Spring Festival in 2021, setting a box office record of 5 billion.

Jia Xiaoling, played by Jia Ling in the play, has been a stupid child since childhood.

She looks ordinary, has a fat body, and is at the bottom of the class in academic performance, which makes her mother worry.

But her mother didn't blame her.

There is a very touching scene in the movie. Jia Xiaoling, who is in kindergarten, often pulls the pockets of her trousers and feels embarrassed after school.

While washing her butt, her mother said softly, "Why do our babies pull in their pants? Because we are small, why can our babies study with big brothers and big sisters, because my daughter is smart? "

That tolerance and pampering can be felt across the screen.

It is precise because of her tolerance that Jia Xiaoling has been living in a safe environment.

Although her academic performance is not good, she is healthy, optimistic, grateful, and independent in her actions.

At the end of the film, Jia Ling shouted: "Mom, I am a comedian now, and many, many people like me."

At the end of the movie, she shouted to her mother in the air: "Mom, the movie "Hello, Li Huanying" is finished, am I amazing?"

This is the best work an accommodating mother has - an optimistic and confident child.

4. Psychologist Li Minjin Said: "Children Are The Shadows Of Their Parents, And Parents Are The Mirrors Of Their Children."

The influence of mothers on children cannot be ignored.

A mother's character plays a huge role in the development of a child.

A mother who pursues the quality of life will bring out a child who also pursues life.

He will not give up the pursuit of life because of the unsatisfactory in front of him.

He loves himself and believes he deserves the best.

A mother who has a long-term vision in doing things will not be short-sighted for her children and will have her own life plan, pattern, and vision.

And a mother who is highly tolerant, she will not demand perfection of her children, she knows how to tolerate the child's small shortcomings, understands the occasional cowardice and timidity of the child, and will encourage the child in time, so as to harvest a child full of confidence.

Such children, even if their academic performance is not excellent, but have a positive personality, correct three views, and high empathy, enough to deal with the ups and downs of life and have a smooth life.

We are both first-time parents, and there are bound to be many shortcomings.

Let us grow up with our children and meet the more beautiful self together.

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