Parenting Tips Children Are Sticky What Should Parents Do?

In addition to verbal and behavioral responses, what else can we parents do? Parents, we can also try to find out why the child is unhappy, or whether the child has encountered something when this behavior occurs, is there some pressure that cannot be expressed? 

So how do you tell your parents this way? In fact, our parents must have such a reasonable understanding, that is to say. Our children will not say like us adults, so they can clearly express their needs, and at the same time when they encounter problems and pressure At times.

They may express themselves through some behaviors, so at this time, our parents must remember, do not to think that the child is young, he does not have the corresponding psychological process and psychological state.

At this time, we can say to our children like this: "Well, these days my mother found that you are a little different from before. Wherever mother goes, you follow wherever you go. Did something happen to you? ?" At this time, our children may not tell us the reason directly, 

But our parents can gradually let the children understand that when she needs you or when the children need their mother, our mother will be by your side to accompany and accompany you. support yours. The slow child realizes that "Mom is really willing to help me and be sincere!" 

Maybe he will tell us what happened. For example, when a child is rehearsing a program at school, he does not behave very well. Unwilling to cooperate with him, he is very unhappy. Then, when he tells us about this matter, our parents can help the child to sort out and express his inner feelings, and at the same time put forward suggestions to solve this problem. 

When the child feels that it is effective, he will tell us directly in the future. When it comes to the problem, I hope we can help, instead of expressing it to us in a sticky way, and at the same time test whether my mother can support me.

But here, we must remind our parents to pay attention that we children, whether children or adults, do not like to be told by others. Also, pay attention to the way and method of communication. Never use accusatory language to directly tell your child what you should do. This is what you are doing wrong. Other children are like this. 

Why don't they like you? Or are you not doing well? Then we know that if we, as adults, do not like to hear such words! The same is true for children. Then he may not be able to express his inner feelings as fiercely as adults. Then, gradually he may become unwilling to tell us things. At this time, parents are still confused? Why doesn't my child communicate with us? 

In fact, sometimes we subtly destroy the bridge between others and us. If we say that in the future, our children can directly ask their parents for help if they have problems, and they will not be criticized and criticized but will feel tolerant, then they will not stick to us or not tell us! Then this is when he was young. When he grows up, he may not tell us anything directly. 

When something really happens, parents will blame the child, "Why didn't you tell me?" Then we Have you ever thought about it, in fact, when he was very young, he was already telling us that I need your support. It is the reason why our parents did not see the reason behind the behavior through the appearance, and that it may happen after preventive measures. some things.

Similarly, when our children can directly ask us for help if they have problems, it means that the parent-child relationship between us and the children's sense of security in the face of pressure and problems are gradually being established.

At this time, what our parents need to do is to communicate with the child patiently and give him guidance and advice. I also said just now that when we communicate with children, we must pay attention to the way and method. Never give advice directly, but guide it slowly, discuss it with him, and discuss it together, instead of telling the parents directly. He: "Just do this, how simple it is!" The child also has self-esteem.

To remind us parents, when our children are inexplicably clingy, or deliberately against us. If this is the case, I just want to test with us, to test whether my parents love me? Then our parents must be patient enough so that the child really feels that he has received a response of love. 

In the future, he will have enough security to face the outside world, because the earliest source of security for children is our parents. Those closest to us are not able to accommodate us. Then his courage to face the world is slowly lost, so we often say why the injury of the family of origin has been mentioned by more and more people in the past two years, and more and more education scholars are paying attention 

The establishment of a family of origin is also such a sentence, we all say: "A good word is warm in winter, and a bad word hurts in June." Then, if a stranger said something unpleasant to us, we might not take it to heart. go. 

If the very important and close people around us are not very friendly or perfunctory in the process of talking to us, even if the purpose is for our own good, it may leave a certain amount of damage to our hearts. Therefore, when our parents communicate with their children, they must pay attention to the ways and methods, and treat them as adults in an equal manner. 

Children are independent individuals, they are not attached to us, and we should respect them In such a state of being unique, they are unique, and it is precise because they are unique that they have their own ideas and characteristics, and we need to respect them.

Finally, I would like to remind all parents that in the face of a clingy child, we must be tolerant, gentle, and patient, and slowly cultivate his sense of security and adaptability to strangeness, so that our children have the courage to face Some pressures on the changing society. So our parenting knowledge today will end here, thank you for watching, and see you next time.

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