What Does The Child Want From The Parents?

It’s not difficult to find that current students also have a variety of comparison psychology in school. They compare their clothes, toys, school supplies, and even their parents, who are father drives what car, who’s father works, and who’s more. Money may be something to show off in the children’s world, but they don’t know that perhaps these seemingly glamorous surfaces may be the “illusion” created by parents to satisfy you. 

Many parents’ concept is to prevent their children from losing. For the victim, all aspects must be compared with others, so I "dressed up" my home as the unrealistic world that the child wanted, allowing the child to live in this "illusion" all the time, thinking it was for the good of the child It really made the child lose the courage to face the cruel reality.

For a while, we often see news like this; bear kids play mobile games and spend 50,000 yuan in savings at home; reward anchors and empty their mother’s bank card... It seems that such bad things are small The kid did it.

We will shake our heads: They were young and had no idea about money, so they made such a mistake. When you grow up, you will mature and you will be fine! Such remarks may seem acceptable to many people, but these bear kids don’t know that the savings that seem to be available soon may be saved by their parents working overtime day and night or saving money, but they But I don't know it at all.

Because maybe in the world of children, parents usually meet their various needs, making them feel that they don’t have money at home, but that the parents give whatever they want. This kind of convenience makes them feel that money is too easy. There is no intention to cherish it, but they don’t know that behind the money are all the contributions of their parents. 

Perhaps the 50,000 yuan was saved by the parents for more than half a year. It may be the food and drink expenses of the family that the parents usually work overtime and save, but The moment they clicked on their little hands, the money disappeared out of thin air. Their consumption outlook was not properly guided, and their parents did not let them realize the difficulty of making money. These were all too "easy" to get and they didn't cherish it. 

In addition to the behavior of these children, it is not difficult for us to find many examples of gnawing old people, middle-aged people in their 30s and 40s. Give it all kinds of slapsticks and even use life-threatening methods to let old parents repay these debts. 

Such "giant babies" are all due to the education of their parents on money when they are young, and they have always relied on their parents, even if it arrives. At Lizhi Nian, parents are still worried that their children will not be enough to supplement them, which will lead to their independence. To a large extent, these are caused by the indulgence of parents. Therefore, regardless of the family’s economy, at least let the children know how to cherish and how to use it wisely instead of spending unlimitedly.

After all, it still needs to be obtained through education. The lack of education in the correct use of money as a child will have a great impact on the child's life, so how can we help the child establish a correct consumption outlook?

1. Don’t tell the family’s financial situation when the child has no idea about the money figures, but when the child proposes something that exceeds the family’s financial expenditure, the parent’s salary can be informed appropriately to let them know the level of their parents’ earnings and the child’s Will be relatively restrained.

But parents can still buy appropriate toys or snacks for their children. When the child asks "how much money is in our family", parents can tell us in detail what we can buy with our money, and what we cannot buy. My child knows this simple range and tells the child not to buy things indiscriminately.

But parents can still buy appropriate toys or snacks for their children. When the child asks "how much money is in our family", parents can tell us in detail what we can buy with our money, and what we cannot buy. My child knows this simple range and tells the child not to buy things indiscriminately.

2. Let them know the income of their parents clearly at the appropriate age, and let the children try not to have the psychology of comparison. As long as we have a normal life, and those relative to "luxury" toys and clothing are not what we want to pursue, we The focus is on learning, maybe the child can understand the parents' pains and situation relatively.

3. Let the children experience the process of making money appropriately, work part-time in summer or winter vacation at an appropriate age, let them understand that it is not easy to make money, and know-how to use money reasonably so that the children's personal experience of life will be unforgettable Feel.

Maybe children do not have the secularity of our adult world, but as they grow older, they must face their own lives on their own. Therefore, parents should not create an illusion to give them seemingly easy and easy money. Instead, they should let their children live in In the real world, you have the courage to face reality and use your fruits reasonably, you can't have the idea of ​​getting something for nothing, and establish a correct consumption concept. It also requires parents to educate themselves.

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