How To Raise A Child With Good Character?

American psychologist Willmon has done research on 150 accomplished intellectuals and found that intellectual development is related to three types of personalities:

The first is perseverance, that is, to face difficulties bravely and stick to the end; the second is to be good at achieving goals and constantly accumulate results; the third is to have self-confidence and not feel inferior.

It can be seen that character is very important to a person's life and can determine his destiny.

A person's character can be seen from the beginning of childhood, but the character is not static, especially before the child is 6 years old, he has not yet been "set", and the direction of the development of the character depends entirely on the guidance of the parents.

Many parents who are fathers and mothers will have such a comparison, why the children of neighbors, children of relatives, and children of friends are so good at conversation, polite and generous, but their own children are only good-natured, see People hide.

I remember a class reunion. I took my son to the party. During the party, my friends asked me how to teach my child. He was so lovable. He called him uncle and aunt when he saw anyone. He also took the initiative to communicate with others. He never takes the initiative to call people, and he will just hum if you say a word.

In fact, it is very simple, it is to seize the opportunity of exercise in life to guide children.

In order to cultivate the children's communication skills, my father and I try to take the children downstairs to play every day, so that the children can overcome their timidity in the process of playing with the children, and consciously take the children to the mall, go shopping, and let the children choose what they want to buy. Sometimes, his dad would deliberately pretend that he couldn't find something to buy, and then let his son ask the salesperson. Because it was something the child wanted to buy, the child was happy to ask.

In this way, the children's social skills are cultivated invisibly, their personality is more cheerful, and they are better at communicating with others.

In school, our parents should also communicate more with the children's teachers, and tell them about the children's personality characteristics and changes. With the care and help of the school teachers, the children will actively and generously speak and perform in the classroom.

My father and I have been focusing on cultivating children's independent character since childhood, giving children more opportunities to exercise independently and cultivating children's oral expression ability. If a shy child is always reluctant to speak when there are many people, we should take the initiative to create opportunities for children to exercise, so that children have more space to express themselves, so that children will become more and more confident.

The so-called self-confidence is to believe that you can do anything, which is a kind of inner certainty and a foundation for doing things.

Cultivating children's character with clear goals and clear thinking requires parents to participate in it, create a good opportunity for children, and be good role models for children.

Therefore, the cultivation of a child's character should start with every little thing around him. Not only should the child do it, but it should also serve as a good role model for our parents. Our parents are the children's first teachers, and their characters can also be good role models. Affect the formation of children's personality.

For example, my son has poor self-control. When he does one thing, he is easily distracted by another. This is the so-called "not good at achieving goals" and cannot accumulate results.

We let him start to practice calligraphy, and let his father accompany him to practice, set an example for the child, focus on one thing, calm down, and write neatly as the beginning of cultivating strong self-control.

This is very helpful for my son to study and cultivate his self-control character in the future.

It is good at accumulating results for achieving goals.

Our children will face a complex society in the future, and they will inevitably encounter setbacks and difficulties. Without a strong and optimistic character, they cannot adapt to the fierce social competition.

The quality of persistence also needs to be cultivated.

There is a very simple way to cultivate children's perseverance, which is to let children learn a specialty.

I have enrolled my son in many interest classes. After the big waves, I chose two interests that he liked and was good at and persisted.

In the process of learning and practicing this specialty, children will experience a complete success process from start to finish. Because of any skill, if you want to master it, you must go through the process of "persistent practice", whether it is practicing the piano, dancing, or calligraphy, there is no need to go through a painful persistence period. If the effect is not paid, it is necessary to give up a lot of playing time.

However, when the child has gone through this long persistence period and sees the results, these hardships will turn into rain.

Having tasted the benefits of perseverance, only when children encounter difficulties, will they be willing to take the road of perseverance, and then get used to perseverance, and finally become a persevering person.

This is perseverance, that is, to face difficulties bravely and persevere to the end.

If our parents can ask our children to start from every little thing around us and persevere, it will lay a good foundation for our children to develop an independent character.

Starting from every little thing around, how noble the character of the parents is, the more beautiful the character of the child is. Parents are the role model and strengths of the child and the first teacher of the child. In real life, only strong and optimistic characters are People who have perseverance, and self-control, and can go forward without fear of difficulties, so that they can achieve extraordinary achievements in life.

Smiles once said: As the sunshine through a small hole, small things can describe a person's character.

Now we start with every little thing around us and cultivate it from an early age. It is not the child who grows up and then cultivates it. The child's character is almost developed before the child is six years old. It is very difficult to intervene successfully.

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