Parenting Tips What Should Parents Do If Children Are Clingy

Babies are most dependent on their parents, and their sense of security also comes from their parents. Many children will be very clingy to their parents. How should parents deal with the clinging of children?

In daily life, we often see scenes like this, the child is crying and asked to be hugged by the mother, but the mother is angry and blames the child: "If you cry again, I will leave, I don't want you!" At this time, the child cried even more. He hugged his mother's leg and didn't let go. She would follow her wherever she went, for fear that her mother would really leave. 

Then we will also see that there are often many children playing and playing, coming over to let their mother hug, or come over to rub against their mother, this time. Some mothers will push the child away, and then say to the child incomprehensibly: 

"Why do you want to hug, the children are all over there, you can play by yourself, and see which child is to be hugged by the mother! Let's all grow up, go and play by yourself." At this time, rubbing against mother, what is behind the seemingly clingy behavior of our children?

In fact, at this time, our parents might as well think about it, when the child is young, or when he is still a few months old, will he also rub against his mother, unconsciously or consciously looking for someone who makes him feel very close.

What about human language or smell? In fact, we will find that behind the seemingly clingy behavior of children rubbing against their mothers, what is hidden is that the children are looking for a sense of security and are curious about new things in the outside world. Insufficient sense of security, so the child will show back rubbing, or wherever the mother goes, he will follow. 

Sometimes when you are playing, you have to go to see if your mother is gone from time to time and make sure that your mother is still willing to take her.

So for clingy children, parents should be reminded to pay attention to the following points:

First, do not cold process. The way many parents deal with it is that you come to stick with me, I will ignore you, no matter how you follow me, I will still do what I do. In fact, this practice is a kind of harm to the child. 

The child who was treated coldly felt that his parents might not love him anymore, and they would push him far away. So in order to get back the love of his parents, the child may become more clingy, for fear that his parents will abandon him. 

At this time, when our parents do not understand this, they will push our children away from more and more. In the end, we will find that the results are getting worse and worse, parents are getting more and more troubled, and the children are also There is suffering can not tell.

If our children come to stick to us, and parents happen to have something to do at this time, what should we do at this time? At this time, we can tell the child to wait patiently for a few minutes, and when the parents are done, they will definitely come to accompany him. 

For example, "Mom is going to wash her hands first, and she will definitely come back when she washes her hands." Then, if we have used this method before, it is to coax the child, and it is not done after saying it. So please also ask our parents to have a little patience in the process of helping children build trust in this way.

We can continue to strengthen "if you are worried about your baby, you can come and see your mother, and the mother will wash her hands in the bathroom, and she will definitely come back to you after washing." 

Then parents should also remember that after washing Be sure to go back to your child. The assurance of words and the performance of a behavior are actually completing the bridge established by the child's trust in his parents, and at the same time expressing the child's question "Do my parents love me?" 

So when we go through such a period of time, After the strengthening, the child gets that the mother loves me, and he accepts my answer, then our child also has the ability to heal itself, it can recover on its own, restore the curiosity about the outside world, and can go to the world full of energy. Explore the outside world!

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